I grew up naively thinking that men and women were equal and I expected my husband to be my equal partner in parenthood. So I went to university, I focused on my career, I learnt how to change tyres and the oil on a car, I went overseas by myself, I climbed the corporate ladder. On paper there was no clue that my resume was that of a female’s.
- He can sleep through a house-trembling, vomit-producing, full volume baby's cry
- He feels no guilt about leaving the room for 40 minutes without explanation of where he is going while I’m left baby and a toddler either side of me – and it’s the weekend!
- He has never been a father before but he is entirely confident that every scream from an under 18mth old is teeth and therefore can be easily dismissed with panadol
- As soon as his head hits the pillow and sometimes before, usually during a conversation, he falls asleep
- I’m unable to fall asleep without first running through a checklist of room temperatures, locked doors, open windows, charged monitors
- A crying baby literally makes my stomach churn, let alone wakes me up
- I can’t make a decision without first thinking of someone else's well being, god forbid I just go out and have time to myself.
the gender inequality involved?
* They just can’t help it, Simon Baron-Cohen, The Guardian, April 17, 2003